Wendy T. Behary  AUTHOR OF Disarming the Narcissist

Cognitive Therapy Center

The Cognitive Therapy Center of NJ
28 Millburn Avenue  Suite 7-A   Springfield, NJ  07081   
973-218-1776 x807   wendy.behary@gmail.com

Wendy Behary founded the Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey in 1991. Originally located in Summit, New Jersey, the Center moved its main office to Springfield, New Jersey in 1998. The Center and its affiliates offer services throughout New Jersey and New York City, and in parts of Connecticut, Long Island, and Pennsylvania.

The Cognitive Therapy Center offers consultation, education, and psychotherapy services to individuals, couples, families, groups, and businesses. Highly experienced therapists offer
cognitive-behavioral and/or schema therapy for a number of difficult and challenging issues.

Affiliates in psychiatry offer medication evaluations and management when needed.
Our areas of expertise include:

  • relationship/marital distress
  • parenting
  • job stress
  • grieving
  • trauma
  • anger management
  • anxiety/depression
  • social avoidance
  • family crises
  • interpersonal skills/public speaking coaching
  • eating disorders
  • substance abuse
  • phobias
  • panic attacks
  • self-esteem
  • motivation enhancement
  • personnel discord
  • narcissism/dealing with difficult people
  • health/medical challenges
  • and more

What Is Cognitive Therapy?

Cognitive therapy views emotional problems as being influenced by negative or extreme thought patterns. These patterns become so habitual that they are experienced as automatic and can go unnoticed by the individual.

In therapy, the client is taught how to uncover these negative patterns and replace them with more adaptive ways of viewing life events. Through this process, clients learn self-help techniques that can produce rapid symptom shifts, solve current life problems, and improve self-esteem.

Cognitive therapy also addresses self-defeating behavior patterns, such as problems with assertiveness or intimacy.

How Cognitive Therapy is Different.

  • The cognitive therapist actively directs clients to the discovery of central thinking problems.
  • The cognitive therapist engages clients as active participants by assigning therapeutic homework.
  • Cognitive therapy focuses on the resolution of current, specific problems.
  • The therapist makes joint decisions with the client and regularly asks for feedback to maintain a high degree of collaboration and empathy.

The Development of Cognitive Therapy.

Cognitive Therapy was developed at the University of Pennsylvania, School of Medicine (in the 1970's) by Aaron T. Beck, M.D., in response to his dissatisfaction with traditional approaches to psychotherapy.

Since that time, there has been an intensive investigation of this approach at academic centers around the world. Cognitive therapy (along with other variations of cognitive behavior therapy) is now probably the most widely researched and practiced of all modern psychotherapies.

What is Schema Therapy?

Schema therapy is an innovative psychotherapy developed by
Dr. Jeffrey Young for personality disorders, chronic depression, and other difficult individual and couples problems. Schema therapy integrates elements of cognitive therapy, behavior therapy, object relations, and gestalt therapy into one unified, systematic approach to treatment. Schema therapy has recently been blended with mindfulness meditation for clients who want to add a spiritual dimension to their lives.

Read The Client's Guide to Schema Therapy
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Defining Schemas and Coping Modes.

The most basic concept in Schema Therapy is an Early Maladaptive Schema. We define schemas as: "broad, pervasive themes regarding oneself and one's relationship with others, developed during childhood and elaborated throughout one's lifetime, and dysfunctional to a significant degree." (see:

Schemas develop in childhood from an interplay between the child's innate temperament, and the child's ongoing damaging experiences with parents, siblings, or peers. Because they begin early in life, schemas become familiar and thus comfortable. We distort our view of the events in our lives in order to maintain the validity of our schemas. Schemas may remain dormant until they are activated by situations relevant to that particular schema.

Schema Modes are the moment-to-moment emotional states and coping responses that we all experience. Often our coping modes are triggered by life situations that we are oversensitive to (our "emotional buttons"). Many of these modes lead us to overreact to situations, or to act in ways that end up hurting us.

Goals In Treatment.

The goals of Schema Therapy are: to help clients break free from self-defeating patterns and coping styles and thus get back in touch with their core feelings. By learning how to identify and heal their early schemas and adopting healthy coping strategies, they achieve less schema triggering, a reduction in emotional intensity, and more rapid recovery. Eventually they are able to achieve their personal goals and get their emotional needs met in everyday life.

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